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This is for new dominants, extracted from my book. Shhhh… no telling. Nerves are normal: taking something that has lived in your head as a fantasy out into the real world with an honest-to-god real submissive partner is scary as hell.

None of this happens in a vacuum. By that I mean things like nudity, wearing cuffs, kneeling, slave positions, kissing, nipple torture, arse play etc. Choose no more than 3 or 4 specific BDSM activities from the checklist as your focus. Pick activities that you both marked as your absolute favourites and choose only things that you actually know how to do and will feel confident and safe doing.

This is where you visualise how you see the play going using those things. If your story is not super hot-awesome-fun for you, start again. It should make you excited. From the little story make a list of things you want to do in the order you want to do them. This is not a script, but you can take the list into the playroom with you: it will act as a prompt if you need it. Tease your submissive with things that are on the playlist: This both builds anticipation and also acts as a check that they are excited about those things.

In the lead up and during bdsm domme behave in a way that supports that feeling. I mean find your voice and your stride and practice projecting them even if you are bdsm domme little tremulous inside. Planning on restraining them? Put ropes around the bed, attach the clips already, so all you have to do is clip the cuffs in. Planning on teasing? Have lube ready. Need wipes?

A towel? Some custard? Have all of that within handy reach. You want to go full uber-domly domdom? Do that. You want to wear sweat pants and a t-shirt? Nude is your thing? Go for it. al the start cleanly. One idea is to have them kneel in a position that is hot for you, and maybe have them affirm their submission to you by repeating some mantra, or inspect their body, comment on how pretty they are, give them hints of what you are going to have them do, whatever works for you.

Do what feels right, sexy, hot to you. They will feed off that. At the end, it can be useful to have a ritual that als that you are done. Perhaps a reverse of the starting ritual. A blindfold is both hot and disorientating for them, and a confidence boost for you. It builds tension and it allows you to build up your confidence. As well as paying attention to their reactions, checking in with them ensures that you are both having a good time. But until you know your partner and their reactions really well, better to check in too much than not enough. I want to note here that most submissives want to please their dominant, so pay attention not just to what they say, but how they say it.

Really sure? Err on the side of caution, always. You can talk about it afterwards and re-calibrate for next time if you misread it. Your playlist can be helpful here. Let them know up-front that you are only giving them a taster, feeling them out. Best outcome: It leaves you both really really wanting more. If any of my readers want to contribute other ideas for new dominants, please do. I know a lot of experienced folks read my blog: the more input the better. If you bdsm domme this information useful, you can get more detail on these steps, and much bdsm domme about setting the scene, building confidence, and kicking arse from my book: How To Make Your First BDSM Scene Amazing.

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Oh alright they can have a clipboard too, but a lot smaller and not as nice as mine either. I would like to emphasize item 7. For me, as a submissive, especially a blindfolded and bound submissive, it builds tension big time. Even if it is bdsm domme long that my arousal goes down, I still feel strongly under your control, having to simply wait for your next action.

And that focuses me on what has ly happened, keeping my mind on your control. Not to mention, as you did, wondering what might happen next. One thing I will add as something to ponder, is having a attitude that you are exploring his reactions. If you find it hot to see how he reacts to various things, you can make this mentally partly about YOU exploring how to get various reactions. Make that a ificant part of your mind set. For example, say you like the idea of running your finger along his ribs. Explore that, either all at once or keep going back to it.

See what happens if he can barely feel it. What about if you use your nails? A feather? A rope? Using tickling? How about mixing light pain and tickling? For me, that is one of the hottest things, knowing she feels comfortable and is interested in seeing how she can cause reactions in me. It builds a sense that she is collecting information about me for future bdsm domme, like I am being exposed to her, in terms of reactions.

Lastly, I will also emphasize one other point that you made in several places. As a submissive, feeling you are in control is huge. There it is. I would love a similar guide for a sub beginner. This was extremely informative and would love to hear the other side. I will be sharing this with my wife as a guide. And voila! Thank you Ferns!

Thanks for sharing.

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