First bdsm experience

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Although BDSM—which includes bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism, and other related sexual practices—has been around for decades, mainstream interest in it certainly seems new and hotly on the rise. It makes sense that as we continue to become more sexually progressivepleasure-positive, and inclusive of diverse sexual interests, BDSM is finding its way into the public consciousness.

But what exactly does wading into the world of BDSM actually look like for an individual? I spoke with 10 people who shared how they got into BDSM and what exactly happened during their first-ever experience with it.

First bdsm experience was introduced to a few things at the Folsom Street Fair, and I ended up practicing it with a guy I was hooking up with. It felt really great! I was really fascinated with how it felt so good even though I was feeling pain. During [the act], [I felt a] little more apprehension and excitement, [but] I was definitely starting to feel turned on. Afterward, I was on a bit of an adrenaline rush.

I was feeling satisfied in more ways than one. I enjoy learning new things about myself, my sexuality, and my sensuality, and I feel that BDSM has shown me and given me a safe space for that. Free of judgment. For her and me, the entire experience came as a surprise, and we enjoyed it. The sole reason why my partner and I tried BDSM was [because we wanted to] try something new and exciting—and honestly, Fifty Shades of Grey was talked about a lot back then.

We always [wanted] to give it a go sometime to see if it [was] something that we [would] like and enjoy. Speaking of feeling, it really felt amazing, as it was a very new thing that we tried in bed [together]. The first movie came out during my freshman year of college, and pretty much everyone in my dorm was talking about it. Eventually, I developed a better understanding of what BDSM first bdsm experience because I started traveling to different sex conferences in America, so naturally, I became more exposed to kink.

It felt a lot more relaxing than it probably looked. The rush of endorphins and adrenaline inside my body made me feel as though I was floating, and I mean that in the best way possible. It was like an out-of-body experience. One of my oldest friends was a leather daddy in the Castro District and shared his experiences freely with me. BDSM grew out of an exploration of my sexuality. As I explored what being bi means to me and learning to be more fully engaged with my sexuality, my spouse and I began to explore BDSM.

Our first experience was two years ago at a small workshop at The Citadel where the workshop leader, an experienced Dom, provided instruction on proper techniques to avoid injury as well as which toys for us to try out. We started with floggers, which I loved, but I was also curious about caning, so we asked the workshop leader if he would cane me. It hurt a lot more than I expected, so much that I felt nauseated, but then the endorphins hit. After four strokes, I was in subspace for the first time, and that was wonderful. Floaty and mellow, I pretty much curled up next to my spouse and purred for the rest of the session.

One of the things I love about kink and BDSM is that, because we do things that can cause injury, communication is absolutely essential. Intentionality is important, so we talk about what kind of experience we want beforehand—am I looking for pain or sensuality or sensation? Does anything hurt? Is anything off-limits?

Has my mind been spinning a thousand miles an hour and I need to let go for a bit? What are my limits? We got drinks, charged for hours, and then got into sex. We both went into the encounter knowing BDSM was desired, so he slowly eased me into it, making me feel comfortable and cared for. There was a lot of trial and error, but he was much more experienced in BDSM than me.

This was someone I met on a dating app, who I sought out specifically because his profile mentioned BDSM, and I was really into the idea of the kink. I think I was a bit indifferent to it at the moment. I was enjoying it, but not really thinking about it other than to enjoy it. But ultimately, I decided it first bdsm experience feel good. I was nervous leading up to the encounter, but mostly just due to inexperience. I actually first tried BDSM with a man, so it did affect [the experience] a bit.

I identified as bisexual then, but I remember thinking about the act after and realizing that the only thing that felt wrong was that I was engaging in BDSM with a man instead of a woman. I knew I was kinky since I started reading fanfic, but that was my first experience actually interacting with the community.

I ended up going to a play party with some people from the group at one of their apartments. It was a really enjoyable experience for me. Overall, I felt good about how it went. That community was a big help for me as I was in a toxic situation with someone [who was] not a part of the group, and it was really nice to have clear boundaries and expectations in the BDSM community. I was definitely nervous the first time [I did it], but everyone I was with made me feel really comfortable and did a good job of negotiating, and I still look back on those experiences very fondly, and honestly, as a bright point in my life.

Nowadays, BDSM is a really big part of my life. I have three partners, all of who are also kinky. BDSM really has helped me with [my] relationships overall, and I love the emphasis on communication and not having any assumptions about boundaries or desires. I got out of a five-and-a-half-year sexless but loving relationship in April and pretty much immediately went on Tinder to make up for lost time.

I initially just wanted to have a lot of sex, but I met a guy I clicked with and ended up in a relationship with. He was aware of my unintentional celibacy and, being a fairly sexual person himself, we had a lot of conversations about what I wanted from my sex life.

BDSM was something we were both interested in. He had a little more experience than I did, so I took a lot of cues from him when we were talking about it beforehand. We planned our first session for perhaps a couple of months. I bought a crop and a collar, and we talked about our boundaries. I was a little nervous going in, particularly because I was taking on the dom role—one I never thought I would inhabit.

It helped that he was first bdsm experience bit more experienced, so at least one of us could guide the other through things beforehand. However, when the session began, I was suddenly calm and trusted that we would communicate well. Things flowed pretty smoothly after that. I think I enjoyed taking on the role more than I thought I would. It was, however, fun, and caring and arousing. I thought I might feel a bit silly, but the fact that he was getting a lot out of it meant that I did too.

He was very patient and calm, though, which helped. I was the sub, and I think those roles fit us both a bit better. We are planning to do it more and explore the scene further to try different things each time. It also opened us up to exploring our other fetishes i. She was shy and submissive and told me she really likes it when a guy pulls on her hair.

I was somewhat worried. I remember I was sitting on the edge of the bed, and she first bdsm experience over to me and started giving me head. She asked me if I could stand up for a while for a better position. I obliged. She then took my hands and put it on her head and told me to pull her hair. I pulled on it pretty hard. She told me that was good, but she wants it harder. At that point, I thought to myself, how much harder does she want it?

So I took a few steps backward with both of my hands still on her hair and I dragged her towards me and I could tell she was really turned on. I felt power and control, and it was an amazing feeling that I wanted to experience over and over again. I dragged her several more times until I ended up orgasming while she was deep-throating me. After that experience, we started to explore other BDSM activities.

First bdsm experience

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A Novice: My First BDSM Experience